The Challenge of Evolution

I'm writing this because I know someone out there maybe struggling with trying to change their life. I want you to know you are not alone.....

I would be lying if I said my evolution has been easy, "why go through this when I'm unsure of the outcome?" I ask myself often...For many years I was mentally sick, negative thoughts and speech is all that came out my mouth...It only intensified as I watched helplessly as those people in my life who were the most positive influences on me leave this life too soon. I had someone in my corner who encouraged me but I took them for granted and disregarded their positivity and forced my negativity upon them. I broke her heart repeatedly, caused mistrust, said foul, hurtful things, those things accumulated in her heart and stayed with her while I carried on selfishly carrying the burden of my pain. Over the years I hurt more than helped and drove folks away..for that I seek atonement...I realized that this outlook was leading me down a path of destruction, so I took the steps to change myself...


So why put myself through this? Because I owe it to my family to be better, they deserve better than they've been getting from me.I saw instant results in my change, things started to come together for me, but that pain remained...and I didn't address it. I have not lived up to my potential to be great, because I've held on to past hurts and threw it upon them instead of letting it go.I'm so sorry...but I carry on down this path to reclaim my life and help them through this time, I have done too much damage..

Don't rush it, don't force it, continue working on your development...become consistent with your actions...

I implore you, don't wait...its never too late to change who you are, if you've hurt someone you love, it will take time to heal. Things won't immediately turn around in hours, days, months, maybe YEARS, emotional damage is hard to fix but it can be fixed. Be strong, cry if you have to...but don't give up so easily...fight for what's important to you. It will be worth it in the end....

Peace

Crew54 - Labor (Office Space Parody)

YO! The fam is back and this time this one is EPIC! Crew54 who of course I'm not only HUGE fans of, but frequently collaborate with on many projects, has dropped this joint and it is AMAZING! "Labor" is a parody of one of our favorite movies "Office Space" and its directed by The M.O.S. of Crew54 and features some very familiar faces in the hip hop scene in Austin. I make an appearance in the video as "Saamir" and this was a very dope and very fun project to work on! For all the behind the scenes insight swing over to The 54 Reality Show and to download "Labor" feat. veteran MC Supastition go to Slap Rapz and download the track for FREE! ENJOY and SHARE with your friends!

The Melz Experience: Teaching Evolution To Future Generations - MANDOM Mens Life Mag

The Melz Experience: Teaching Evolution To Future Generations - MANDOM Mens Life Mag

We are no longer held to the stereotypes and beliefs our parents held 50 years ago. We have evolved mentally so why are we still passing down intolerance to our children? This week I share my experiences dealing with intolerance and how my family was able to overcome this touchy topic....

The Melz Experience - Prologue

“You need to screw up to learn. You need to experience to create greatness.”  -Laurie Faria Stolarz

Today I begin my series of posts for "Mandom Magazine" called "The Melz Experience". I approached the creator of Mandom, Zillz, to create a series of blog posts about the journey and experiences we share as intelligent, hard working, and NON-STEREOTYPICAL men that we could impart to younger men. This is in no way an "advice" column. The hope for these posts is to have a location where men can not only share their experiences about life but also to raise more discussion about issues most mainstream outlets won't cover and  avoiding the standard provocative issues we ALWAYS talk about. I believe that we are beyond the everyday debates about "women", sports and politics....I prefer to dive deeper into these subjects and rather give men a forum to relate how these things affect your EVERYDAY life, and not just "generally".


I would never profess to be a "guru" of any sort. I'm more likely to describe myself as an "habitual f***-up", but the great thing about life is you are presented with opportunities to rectify those screw-ups. My life experiences are not the stuff of legend, actually its quite boring if you asked me. I've never done the "back-packing through Europe" thing but I've been to college, worked blue-collar jobs, worked white-collar jobs, been arrested, been to war, hung in the streets with thugs and corporate board rooms with even BIGGER THUGS! I've experienced a lot including being married to the same woman I've had children with for the last decade. And that is where we will begin this series....

Marriage does take a lot of commitment on both sides in order for it to succeed. Its proven that women mature faster than men which is why they are more prepared for this life long commitment than we are...this is known also. Now of course I would never tell you how to steer your life, but in my case, I made a promise to myself that I wouldn't get married until I have experienced EVERY sexual fantasy I wanted to at least ONCE. Luckily for me, I was able to succeed at this mission (which honestly was a very short list) before meeting my beautiful wife. I figured that once I've knocked this list out, there should be no reason for me to say: "Never tried that before" once I'm committed, thus making me less likely to cheat.

Now as a male there are certain things sexually I would NEVER ask the mother of my children to do, but strangely I'm attracted to certain things thanks to that age-old equalizer....

PORNOGRAPHY

 

This will not be a post with me "explaining" or "justifying" nor "defending" porn. I shall be merely exploring how porn can either lift or bring down your relationship with the opposite (or same) sex. And true to the name of these posts I will share MY real life experience with the topic and I would like to hear your stories also (keep it within context, try not to share "too much" ya pervs). Ladies you are open to join in also, so swing over to Mandom Magazine and rock with us!

 

The Melz Experience on Mandom Magazine

HOTBOX254 SXSW 2013 The Brotherhood & Buggs Tha Rocka

The HotBox254 is back..we kick off our SXSW coverage chopping it up with The Brotherhood out of Killeen TX and Buggs Tha Rocka who made the trip to Austin from Cincinnati. Gonna be dropping videos all weekend long and starting April 1st I kick off writing for Mandom Mag the Premier Men's Lifestyle Magazine with "The Melz Experience" where I give my "advice" and opinions.

 The kid getting busy this year, so if you just so happened to stumble across this site, peep the LinkedIn and everything else...this will soon become the destination for all things Melz...Let's go!

The Evolution of Me.

 Over the last year I have been lending advice and help to not only a friend and brother, but a very talented songwriter named Byron Durant. We've always had discussions about one day working on doing music on a more major level and we believe that the time has finally come to go get those blessings. I am very proud to present Byron's very first single "None Like You" featuring vocals by Shamond Scales & Xample. This is the first single from Byron's upcoming compilation "The Evolution Of Me: My Testimonies As A SongWriter" We truly believe that this song will be a blessing to you and please feel free to share this with your friends.